I’m in my mid-forties, and traditionally these years are commonly viewed as years of reflection. I don’t claim to be an authority on all matters pertaining to life, but here are my insights just the same. I humbly offer you three deeply lived realizations about finding yourself, creating positive change, and experiencing nu.
1. Wordy prayers are a real downer!
Everyone knows that prayer is the primary way to talk with God. But, prayer is also a way to hear God talk to you. In order for this to happen, you have to learn to “prayer-talk” less, and “prayer-listen” more. This has been a life-lesson I’ve had to learn, and am still learning. It’s a daily practice, something one continually practices, and refuses to get discouraged with. In all honesty, my prayer life has become less and less about words, and more about nuLISTENING. When I must use words, they most often are simply: Come, Yes, Your will be done, and thank you.
2. Discovery opens the way to more!
As we age, we become more and more aware of our limitations. They were always there, but we weren’t always aware of them. Time is a formidable teacher. Our dreams will always be with us, but they evolve over the years. Perspective is gained, and hopefully a “willingness” remains to keep searching, learning, and exploring the nu. However, those actions become more and more internal than they do external. This is where I am in life at the present.
At this stage in my life, I still suffer from “wanderlust,” but the adventures I experience are much closer to home. The beauty, grace, peace, and love in my limited space is more nu than it ever has been. There is so much to discover and thrill right here in the present. My goal is to live life with my eyes wide-open, and as fully present as I can possibly be.
3. Face your inner demons; own your responsibility!
Life has taught me that I am never alone. Yes, I feel alone sometimes, even oftentimes. But, every time my feet touch the ground I’m reminded that I am connected to the earth. Every time I inhale to breathe, I am reminded that grace is nu, everyday, all the time. And, every time I speak or act, I am reminded that the consequences of my choices and actions are not mine alone. In order to make a difference in the world, I must be willing to face my demons, and own personal responsibility.
As you can imagine, this task takes copious amounts of compassion, patience, forgiveness, grace, and love–for myself, others, and God. We are all supported by networks of family and friends, beautiful at times and less-than-beautiful on other occasions. Properly discerning the “healthy” from the “unhealthy” without severing necessary ties will help us thrive in life. It’s easy to recognize someone else’s “demons.” However, people are mirrors. To truly take steps forward in life (nuSTEPS), we must be willing to see the same in ourselves–our inner demons, fears, blockages, and limiting beliefs.
In short, get out of your head and get into your heart. Think less, feel and listen more.